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The Power of Positivity

Moving requires equal parts patience, positivity, and ice cream in order to go well. I firmly believe all three are key. This move from Texas to Virginia has been the most stressful yet, so it's been all about perspective to get through it. To sum it up, I had to coordinate the packers by myself since Parker was away at the time, our packers and loaders were unprofessional and careless with our things, our move manager would not respond to calls, our things got temporarily misplaced, they were delivered 2 weeks later than they were supposed to, and we have a page and a half long list of damaged items. Not the best move we have ever had.

With each new item the unloaders wheeled into our new house, Parker and I cringed and held our breath to see what would be wrong with it. The coffee table Parker built when we got married is in pieces and ruined, the new dining room table my parents bought us for Christmas is banged up on the ends, my favorite pair of boots are scuffed, our dresser is chipped at the corners, wine glasses, a vase, and my cake stand were shattered, the washing machine is dented... I could keep going, but you get the idea. Moving day was supposed to be so exciting, but it quickly got pretty depressing. 

The movers had to bring our things in two trips. When they left to go get the second truck, I turned to Parker and told him that I felt so defeated. I didn't really want to see the rest of our things because I knew that list of damaged goods would just get longer. His response makes me smile and shake my head as I replay the situation in my brain. He said "It's okay! You know I have been wanting to build a new coffee table anyway. It's just stuff". I don't know why this surprised me since Parker is easily one of the most positive people you will ever meet, but it still took me by surprise. Instantly, my perspective changed. He was right.

The two most important things to me, and the only two things that mattered out of everything we transported, didn't get damaged in the move. Parker is in one piece, and so is Jenny. Stuff is nice, but it's meaningless. It doesn't bring me true happiness. Parker and Jenny make my world go around, and they both got to Virginia unscratched.

We had a choice to make as they brought in all of our things. We could be mad/sad/depressed/annoyed, or we could choose to see the positives. We can file damage claims, so we will be somehow compensated for all of the things that were broken. It may be a little banged up, but we have a table to eat at again. No more dinners in lawn chairs! It may have a small hole in it, but we can sit on the couch as a family again. It may be a little dented, but the washing machine still works, and I can finally do some much needed laundry. It may not all be in one piece, but we have stuff. 

Had Parker not been so sunshine and rainbows about the whole thing, I probably would have been pretty bummed out. His positive outlook forced me to see the forest for the trees, and in turn, I felt blessed instead of angry. Being negative is contagious, but so is being positive. That little dose of optimism is all I needed from Parker. I want to be that little dose of optimism for someone each day. You can be that too! Like I said, a positive attitude is contagious and just plain fun to be around. We can't always plan for life's bumps and bruises, but we can choose how we react to them. I always say you have to play the hand you're dealt. Sometimes, you get dealt a really crappy hand. I imagine you get all the twos and threes of the deck while everyone else seems to have the kings and aces. We don't always have control over what happens to us, but we can always control how we perceive it. There is so much power in positivity. The choice is yours, friends.

Sleepy eyes and big smiles... it must be moving day!



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18 comments :

Samantha @ Life is But a Stream of Thoughts said...

I'm so sorry the move didn't work out for you as you had hope, but I am so glad to hear how positively you and Parker took it. That's such a wonderful, refreshing viewpoint.

Cheri @ Overactive Blogger said...

So sorry to hear about your things! That makes me worried about hiring any fool to just come move my stuff. Yikes!

Brianna said...

What a perfect attitude! And it's so amazing how someone can lift your spirits just like that ... such a blessing!

Brianna
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Kirstie said...

So sorry that it worked out that way, but glad to hear you guys saw the positive's!

Ashley Bishop said...

It's so easy to get angry and upset, but you are right, positive attitudes are contagious too! I needed to be reminded of this a few days ago.

Jen said...

I know what you mean! It is so hard to stay positive but it does help. Sometimes you just have to laugh at the ridiculousness of it all.

Rachel Lynn said...

Military moves are so hit and miss in my experience. I'm sorry your things didn't all arrive as they should. That's why it's nice you can claim damages. I'm glad you're looking at the positives though! It is definitely hard to remember them sometimes in the military life of unpredictability.

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Emily Stewart said...

As usual, Parker Phelps for the win! I'm so sorry to hear about your stuff (loved that coffee table) but he's right, you all got there safe and sound so that's all that matters. Good luck unpacking, friend! Way to keep your head up! :)

The Girl who Loved to Write said...

I'm so sorry..that's terrible! I'm so glad you guys have each other to lean on and encourage during this time!

Bailey Kay said...

So sorry to hear about the move! :( I'm so glad you have a positive item despite it all.

~*Night Owl*~ said...

What a great way to look at things. That's how my sweetie is. No matter what I'm going thru he lets me know it will be ok and work out like it should and to always remember he loves me. which I never forget.

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Carly Blogs Here said...

"It's just stuff." Love how true that is-- and sometimes when we're so upset or frustrated about things we all need to remind ourselves of that!

Hana R said...

Yay for a positive attitude from Parker!!! I think women just tend to get emotionally attached to "stuff" more than men do. It's just stuff!!

Grandma Pat said...

You two are an inspiration. it's so easy to be tempted to look on the bad side and you chose to see God's blessings in your life. Bravo! Things can only go uphill from here. Lots of love from me and Grandpa Har

Melzie at Ribbons and Rotor Blades said...

I love your outlook! We've always moved ourselves because we're heard so many stories of things being damaged (and those even more sad stories of them not reimbursing for some of the damages). But after last move, we've realized it's just not worth it to do it ourselves anymore. I always said, when we do, I will bring my items that can't be replaced (wedding keepsakes, heirlooms, etc) with us in the car. The rest, as you said, is stuff.

Kenzie Smith said...

I love your guys' outlook on this situation! I know that I would have been livid and it would have ruined my week, maybe even my month. I can sure hold a grudge ;D But, you are so right. They are just stuff. Glad that you guys and Jenny made the move much less banged up!

Elizabeth said...

UGH! That totally sucks, But your husband is so right! Those are the moments that we are faced with where we place our value. It is just stuff and the Lord provides! Sometimes it takes crap moments like this to switch our perspective and turn our eyes back on the Lord!!

I am praying that the Lord provides in surprising ways through all this!!

Susannah said...

Augh! What a frustrating situation. Good for Parker to have and encourage such a great perspective! I hope you're getting all the stuff figured out and getting your things replaced.

Thanks for linking this up with the Faith and Fellowship blog hop!

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