When it comes to military life, you uproot your lives about as often as Joey uses the catch phrase "How you doin?". We move all. the. time. We've lived in 5 homes in 3 years, which is exhausting just typing. With the moving, we are constantly making new friends. We had amazing friends in Pensacola, and then the Navy made us move. We had amazing friends in Kingsville, and then Corpus Christi, and the Navy made us move. We have amazing friends here, and I am fairly confident the Navy will see another opportunity and make us move again, but you never know. The point is, we have to step out of our comfort zones and meet people if we don't want to go nuts.
I didn't try to meet anyone the first couple of months in Pensacola, which was our first duty station, and that was a mistake. I was just new to the military life and didn't want to put myself out there. Once I finally did, those people became some of the best friends we have ever had. Meeting new people can be awkward or it can be really easy and fun. I realized that I can dictate how the experience goes based on how willing I am to get out of my comfort zone and say hello. I credit being in a sorority for 4 years for being able to talk to a tree stump. I'm a pretty extroverted person once I make myself leave the house and go hang out with people.
This list uses examples from my experience as a military spouse, but I think it can really be applied to anyone.
- Get out of your comfort zone. My comfort zone = Parker. I can't hang out with him 24/7 though. I need girlfriends. Parker is my best friend, but he shouldn't be my only friend.
- Talk about what you have in common. Hey, we are military spouses. You know what that means? It means we have a ton in common with each other. Seriously, we are going through the same stuff or have gone through the same stuff before.
- Go to ice cream. Because really, all new friendships start over food. At least the ones between girls do. And if it's over ice cream, you'll probably be besties for the resties.
- Complain the entire time. Yes, military life is difficult. Yes, we need to vent to each other. We also need to help each other focus on the positives of this lifestyle, because there are so many positives. Venting is encouraged because if anyone understands what you're going through, it's the girl going through the exact same thing. However, there is a difference between venting when you need to and being a negative Nancy.
- Just talk about your husbands. Talk about what you have in common, but don't spend an hour talking about what your husbands do. My husband is a pilot, and I think he has the coolest job in the world, but that doesn't mean we should spend an hour talking about it. We have a lot in common- more than just what our husbands do every day.
- Wear your husband's rank. Okay, this one really doesn't relate to non military spouses, but it's my biggest pet peeve in the military world. My husband has a rank because he is in the military. I am a military spouse. I have no rank. The biggest turn-off to me is when someone starts talking about their husband's position or rank like they earned it.
So there are my two cents. Do you like meeting new people?
|Friends from our first duty station in Pensacola. Love and miss these people. Also, Emily, Ryan's face.|